Wednesday, December 1, 2010
to say that the past is past is to acknowledge a chapter survived in one's life, notwithstanding how many battle scars worn. it does not mean that the past is buried. for if we are to believe that a person is made up of her time in the universe, then the past is as much a significant part of one's personality and character, as what she is in the present, and her aspirations for the future. to be in a relationship means not shunting out that past from scrutiny simply because it is impossible. to be in a relationship means exposing one's broken heart and soul fully, all of these a product of one's past, even if unwillingly at times. that is why it is important to choose that person, with whom to share one's past with, carefully. for although past is past, it is still a part of who you that is worth entrusting to. it therefore also takes a lot of responsibility to be able to handle one's past in a relationship. although one could say, the past is over now and i've learned to deal with it, it may not be for the people surrounding us, the people we love. so we are responsible. we are responsible for helping people navigate through the sordid realities of our past. in a relationship, this past is shared.